How to Be Mentally and Emotionally Strong

Do you hate it when someone puts you down, and then just walks away, leaving you in suspense? Do you always give in to EVERYTHING people tell you to do? Are you a doormat? Or do you just feel weak inside? Do you feel that you are always misunderstood or nothing you do is ever right?If so, read this article:

Steps

1. When someone says an offense to you, try tensing your muscles. This makes you feel physically strong, thus giving the mental affect that you are strong.
2. Try to acknowledge and accept your emotions. When you'll be able to do that, you'll be able to change them as well.
3. When you're in an uncomfortable situation or just not feeling well, try the ABC technique below the steps.
4. When they say something that hurt you, try to give witty or (possibly) pointless come-backs which will leave them hanging on a thread, maybe a bit confused.
5. Laugh it off. It makes you feel better and other people usually don't know how to react.
6. If you are one of those people who tends to ACTUALLY punch people, then imagine your wrist is chained to your side, and instead of physically punching them, do it in your head.
7. Do the opposite of what your emotions are telling you to think, therefore making you more in control.
8. If you are on the verge of starting a fight, imagine how you'd feel if it was done to you. It's obvious you'd rather NOT have your nose bleeding, or something similar.

ABC Technique

Think about:

1. Your situation at the moment/What happened/etc. and try to be as objective as possible. Once you've done that, call it A.
2. Your thoughts about the situation. Be careful: not your emotions, but your thoughts. Call them B.
3. Your negative emotion(s) and reaction(s) that originated from your thoughts. Call it C.

When you're done, focus on your B. You cannot modify the situation, but can change your emotions through your thoughts. A simple example:

1. A: My examination didn't go well.
2. B: I could've done better, should have studied more, I'm so angry.
3. C: Anger, frustration.
   
   • B1: Oh well, my next exam will go better.
   • C1: Relief, optimism.

Not all situations can be handled this easily of course; this method though, helps you understand your emotions and change your reaction to many stressful situations.

Tips

• Always test these methods out on the person who made you look at this page in the first place, because your emotions won't be fooled if your friend is helping you.
• Try thinking of your eyes as vacuums, pulling the tears back if you do start crying.
• If you still knock people around, seek professional help. That's not insecurity, it's violence.

Warnings

• This may not work every time. Remember, practice makes perfect!
• Don't use these methods on children if you're an adult. They may not understand, and it could upset them.

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